Dating

Theoretically, I think I'm forming a clearer idea of what dating is. It is a meeting (that much is obvious). Different than a friendly meeting in the sense that there's an expected push and pull... and expectation for both to be challenged and checked. It's sparring. But it's not physical sparring and it's not intellectual sparring. There can be some banter, if it's acceptable form - probably some story mimicking reality - probably with sexual innuendo. But of course, innuendo at most, rather than literal speak of sex - as that is not sexy - ironically enough. And, maybe some building of rapport - more of a serious part of the conversation. Additionally, the man will be required to show confidence, some level of social assertiveness, financial stability (even if not rich), and an interest in taking care of the girl - pull her chair out for her or whatever. And then the girl will evaluate with something like "I had a good time" or some cryptic body language than indicates interest or disinterest. The guy will figure out if he's attracted to her - but lets get real - he already was before the date (unless it was the blind variety). Ultimately she will use this "date" to determine if he's fit, in the Darwinian sense. For a friend, she might just hang out or take care of the guy for whatever reason - with the date, she has to make sure he can take care of her. For a friend, it's good to relax, for the date, a certain amount of tension is inserted (one way or another), probably as a challenge. Once this dating is over, it's over. It's like the spider's dance. They only do it in an evaluation phase. After that the female might just mate (or not), then go ahead and eat him, or maybe let him go. Dating never comes up again.

I thought maybe smart girls wouldn't care much about this stuff as they would see through the game. But, I don't think it matters if the girl is smart or not. It's likely that the majority of girls (of all kinds) will want this game.