Women like conversation that's not random

Women like to go deep into given topics. If they mention a topic, it can be explored in depth. Guys don't care, they will often do random topic, a little bit of information from each. With a women it makes sense to explore topics deeply. It probably makes sense to smoothly transition to topics also. Like when having an actually conversation. Now with quick text messages, I suppose one typically would not explore very deep but rather just focus on short lines, humorous is good. Main thing with text messages is to get to a plan for meeting in person.

Are dreams real

We'll never know if dreams (or waking life) are real. However, the fact that you wake up out of sleep when you hear a sound (rather than the other way around) indicates to me that your body is trying to put you into external reality so that you will not be eaten by a lion or whatever.

Drifting DNA

With the constant random changes that occur in our DNA (a downward drift), the only thing that has stopped our species from degerating from "DNA rot" is evolutionary pressure, which pushes us to not neccesarily to the same place as before, but always "upward" in some direction of pseudo-progress. (I say pseudo-progress because there are some weird things - like boobs evolving to looks like butts when people began standing more upright - is that really progress - who knows - but it worked.) Looks like evolutionary pressure or genetic engineering are the only ways to continue long term.

How war factors into evolution

War is a "solution" that nature came up with to deal with the problem of deciding which society should be allowed to use resources and which should not. Humans have tribal warfare instincts (so do apes). Tribal warfare "works" (in a totally amoral way) because it selects groups that mentally and physically out-perform others. Without this pressure, humans may not have evolved to become more and more intelligent to the point they have reached today. The problem is that tribal warfare insticts mixed with modern nuclear weapons is not what nature intended or tested. The bombs just kill everybody without selecting the fittest for survival. It's fortunate that somewhere in our minds nature also gave us some kind of global respect for human life - which is probably what stopped the the Cuban missle crisis from turning into WW3. However, I really don't think that global respect is very strong on average - because it never needed to be while our instincts were evolving. We have not yet been through the evolutionary pressure required to select for global respect for life. Consider 100 human-level species on 100 different planets. The societies that have sufficient respect continue to exist while the ones without it bomb themselves into nuclear winter. We either are one that survives or not. (This is very different from tribal existence thousands of years ago where pretty much only repect toward the tribe members counted.)

Coffee shop

Doing my thing working on something at coffee shop

I start overhearing two girls talking

They're like 20ish - I say this because by the time women are like 35 they are different.

One was grossing me out because she was slowly eating a giant egg sandwich - eggs are weird - they're almost not a food at all - and they smell funny - make me nauseous. I can still eat them, but only in a particular mood.

I decided to stay at the adjacent table as a sort of person challenge rather than moving.

It wasn't really a conversation they had, more like verbal diarrhea flowing effortlessly from their mouths. I feel disgust but envy also. Because truly how can people do this, it's hard for me to understand - how can you just flow through a conversation that's not really talking about anything?

This may be why I tend to drop evolutionary biological stuff into conversations when I'm there - it's like I'm trying to derail the topic off of the track and somewhere else. I was thinking if I was at the table, that's probably what I would have done.

Personality is difficult to quantify

A girl asked me what is really different about her personality. It's a difficult question to answer. Unlike something like height, hair color, eye color, eye size, symmetry, all easily quantified, personality is based on brain structure and neural circuitry, which is extremely complex with room for effectively infinite numbers of different people.

Language

All written rules of language should be ignored so it can naturally change over time.

Self replicating patterns

Self replicating patterns imprinting themselves on limited matter and energy, that's humans replacing other homonids, and it's what has been going on throughout the whole course of biological evolution.

Peacock

Peacock with it's giant nonfunctional but beautiful tail has evolved to survival proficiency far beyond what is needed. Evolutionary pressure now is not just to survive but to go beyond survival, as humans often do.

Evolution

In New Ginea where people kill each other if not an ancestor, one can see evolution playing out. this kind of stuff makes evolutionary theory ring as accurate. The behavior seems crazy and psychopathic but it totally makes sense in terms of evolution. More industrialized society still fight for territory and such like animals too, but they've organized into coherent nations that do not self-attack.

Refence: this american life episode about the tribe

Crocodile

A crocodile's almost the same as a mouse-trap, an ambush style snap-shut thingy

How to answer the the girls's question of "why did you choose me"

When you want to answer the the girls's question of "why did you choose me" as a mate or as a partner or for a conversation or as a person to join for an event, etc., the answer should be in the form of a positive. Tell here the properties that she has which put her above everyone else. The negative approach, criticizing others is less effective. It indicates to her that maybe she is just average and others are worse. You want to indicate other are average and she is better.

Two personalities of women

Women have two simulatneous minds. One is the nice one that is fun to talk to and likes sex. The other is dilusional paranoid detail analyzer that will try to determine your long term potential as a mate based on seemly arbitrary and often innacrate cue's. Learning the the parameters of the dilusional paranoid personality is equivalent to learning how to be in a longer term relationship (longer term meaning like two weeks or more).

Evolution of motivation

Human society and behavior has changed rapidly and drastically in the last 20 thousand years while our instinctive motivations haven't had time to change. (20 thousand years is hardly any time for evolution to change our actual hard wiring.) Many things that people do really are mapping back to the same instinctive drives, for example football is basically nerf tribal warfare. But for optimal performance, one would expect that human society has developed some way to reprogram the desires themselves (not just hard-wire them). One way the is apparently done is with the instinctive desire to do whatever the parents want you to do. (1) Parents are often experienced enough to logically and intuitively figure out what would be a pretty good course based on up-to-date information. (2) The child has a hard-wired biological drive to make the parents happy. Put the two together and you have a way that evolution has developed to put logic and experience based drives and motivations deep into the children's minds.

Divorce and childlessness

"Sociologists believe that childlessness is also a common cause of divorce. The absence of children leads to loneliness and weariness and even in the United States, at least 66 per cent of all divorced couples are childless."

This is likely because marriage and monogamy are systems that evolved primarily to handle child care. One doesn't really need them is one is not having children.